Envy
Envy is a part-object function, it is not based on love. Some people consider envy to be the most primitive and fundamental emotion. It is a part-object process that is not based on love, it exhausts external objects, and is destructive in nature. Envy is destructive, possessive, controlling, and does not allow outside intruders in.
Jealousy
Jealousy, unlike envy, is a whole object relationship whereby one desires the object, but does not seek to destroy it or the Oedipal rival (father and siblings, those who take mother away. Jealousy, unlike envy, is based on love, wherein one desires to be part of the group, family, clan, nation… and be included in the group, the clan, the family. Jealousy has an Oedipal component, is based on love, and is a higher form of development than envy. It is a triangular relationship, in which one seeks the possession of the loved object and the removal of the rival.
These are definitions from PhD Joan Lachkar
Don’t even ask me why I was thinking about this, I think it’s because sometimes the possesive nouns overtake the rational thought I like to defend. 2008 resolution: waiving goodbye emotional approaches to business ;-)
In the photo Princess Elf who cannot be happy with all her riches courtesy of Maddie Harder
Tags: business, emotional management, envy, jealousy, oedious, oedipal, part-object, primitive emotions, psychology, psychoreality
